The guy that came up with the phrase, “Sleep Like a Baby” is either drunk, or he meant to finish with “..with a tranquilizer dart in his butt’. Either way, he or she, is obviously NOT a parent.
The second kid is hitting 1.5 months now. Some great milestones include:
a) Great feeding. This is highly important, because our first kid didn’t feed good and struggled mightily, and the mum had the feared E word (Engorged). I don’t know how it feels like, but my wife has a pain threshold of a Panzer tank and if she feels pain, that means to me, it would be like someone kicking me in the nuts repeatedly for 2 days non stop. I guess.
b) Growing healthy. 2nd kid came out big, then became a little concerningly smaller, and now at 4.7kilos and 55 cm. That’s pretty ok, because the chart states that one month length should be 51.1 – 58.4cm and weight 3.4 – 5.73kg.
c) He’s a strong fler. If I get a sen everytime I hear a father say that about his own boy, I’ll be a Malaysian millionaire, which is roughly around the income of a construction labourer in Singapore. But he is. He has been lifting his head up during tummy time since 4 weeks, and he kicks like Van Damme. In his prime.
But sleeping, like every baby – is an awesome challenge. He sleeps sometimes two hours, sometimes never at all, and he just stares at you suspiciously with those wide eyes, and the moment you put him down, he bawls out like a banshee. The problem was, we thought he was such a great baby when the confinement lady was around, but the week she left, he developed this naughty habit of refusing to close his eyes.
Now I know, sleep experts tell us to shush pat and don’t walk around and leave him in the cot blah blah. But hey, I can’t. I am a lousy parent. So I pick up my kid when he is screaming for help for 5 – 10 minutes till he is hoarse. In some cases, I have to do it because mum is sleeping and she hasn’t been sleeping lately, so I just take this crying mess out and go downstairs to bait him into watching football or something. I know. Experts (meaning other mothers) will tell you it’s wrong and he needs to be discipline to understand night and day. Or that we need to put him in the crib when he is JUST about to sleep but not sleep. All theory and all good, but realistically, there are so many factors – like what if the mother is a walking zombie and needs to sleep also? What if the 1st kid decides to become spiderman and starts scaling up the staircase railings? What if your business partner from US calls to ask how is that tender preparation going, and you have to shout back due to the screaming of the kid? What if your house lights suddenly decide to black out?
So no, I think the biggest challenge right now is the sleeping. And on top of that, keeping the sanity of the mother. Now, the father – that’s me – we have an option to sleep, of course. But work being work, we only have time to do it after the 1st kid falls asleep. We put him in bed around 9 pm but he wriggles and fools around till almost 10.30 to 11 pm! He still requires a nightlight, and he still requires me to sleep with him in another bed (remember, I am a bad parent so I never practiced solo sleeping when he was a kid – plus I want to keep cost low by running only one air-cond all night). Not only that, he requires me to hold him, so my bed is much lower than his, so I have to stretch out my hand in a yoga fashion and hold in place until all blood circulation is cut off and I am almost developing gangrene, and then he nods off to sleep after talking to himself for an hour.
But then I need to start working, so around 11 pm to 2 am I am crunching on my laptop, and the other kid wakes, and I go to the other room, walk him round a little until his feeding time comes and mum gets enough shuteye, and I go back and work on stuff till 3 to 4 am and sleep and wake up at 7.30 am to get the kid to school.
I get around 4 hours of sleep and now worried about developing a stroke or heart attack due to the lack of sleep!